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FINTEL's avatar

Left 3 years ago. Was homesick for a year. Every month I had a moment where I said I'm leaving, going back, I can't take it anymore. I missed things, missed those moments, the land, the "freedom" if you could call it that.

I missed the food most of all. I missed the funniest of foods too, a sandwich 🥪 was once my goto one month, I had to leave so I could eat sandwiches, then mexican food, tamales, real milk etc etc. It went on like that for a year. After that I started feeling more at home where I was, and thoughts of going back became less important.

Fast forward to today, I don't want to go back. I recently went back for 14 days and it was really nice, but I longed to leave and get back to what was now home. Leaving does something positive to you if you can get through the changes and somehow drop the emotional baggage that America gives you.

Leaving is not for everyone of course, but in these dark times it is a choice that people should make, if only for peace of mind, safety and sanity. Once you leave that dark place, you'll find that it doesn't touch you the way you'd think. Over here we don't really see or even care what goes on over there. It's enlightening for those that can make it.

Thank you for this post.

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I left Britain for France about 7 years ago, and my timing was forced by the imminent Brexit. I defined that decision, not as me leaving Britain, but as Britain leaving me. That is still the way I think of it.

May I suggest you think of two America's; the one before Trump that holds all of your history and all of your memories, is the first one. You still love it, and it is best defined if you draw a line under it and keep it intact in your memory.

The second America is Trump's America, perhaps Ex-America, and it abandoned you when it swerved hard Right and left you sitting in the middle of the road. Not your fault, not even really your decision. You have no other choice now but to pick yourself up, gather your belongings and walk away.

Be grateful for your opportunity to get away. For those still clinging to the wayward America, or somehow tied to the back bumper, careening towards the cliff, their prospects are not good. Not good at all. Have pity for them, but mostly be grateful you are not amongst them.

The next thing must be this; tell me about your future life, about your new dreams and plans, about all those things you always wanted to do, and now you can..... Because that is where your life now is.

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